http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/feed/? Latest topics Sun, 13 Apr 2008 22:03:43 GMT 10 http://www.helpinghoarders.com/images/HHLogo-dropshadow.jpg http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/feed/? http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/personalizing-objects-experiences-suggestions-f42/rescuing-t142.htm gopats What about the compulsion to rescue things by the side of the road or in thrift stores or that others throw out? Why do we feel so complelled to do this? I would like to see a discussion started on this. Thanks! Personalizing Objects: Experiences & Suggestions Tue, 25 Mar 2008 16:39:43 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/personalizing-objects-experiences-suggestions-f42/rescuing-t142.htm#180 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/personalizing-objects-experiences-suggestions-f42/rescuing-t142.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/personalizing-objects-experiences-suggestions-f42/anthropomorphism-t57.htm Admin Anthropomorphism The ascription of human characteristics to things not human. Source: http://cancerweb.ncl.ac.uk/cgi-bin/omd?anthropomorphism Anthropomorphism is the attribution of uniquely human characteristics and qualities to nonhuman beings, inanimate objects, or natural or supernatural phenomena. Animals, forces of nature, and unseen or unknown sources of chance are frequent subjects of anthropomorphous. The term is derived from two Greek words, ἄνθρωπος ... Personalizing Objects: Experiences & Suggestions Tue, 22 Jan 2008 18:54:05 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/personalizing-objects-experiences-suggestions-f42/anthropomorphism-t57.htm#64 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/personalizing-objects-experiences-suggestions-f42/anthropomorphism-t57.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/health-conditions-f56/do-you-have-a-health-condition-that-impacts-your-efforts-t77.htm Admin If you choose, please share here. Health Conditions Wed, 23 Jan 2008 18:45:20 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/health-conditions-f56/do-you-have-a-health-condition-that-impacts-your-efforts-t77.htm#84 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/health-conditions-f56/do-you-have-a-health-condition-that-impacts-your-efforts-t77.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/conquering-chronic-disorganization-2nd-ed-by-judity-kolberg-t175.htm gopats Amazon link: http://www.amazon.com/Conquering-Chronic-Disorganization-Judith-Kolberg/dp/0966797035/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1208123866&sr=8-1 Great book!! Short, to the point, lots of examples. Read the book over 2 nights. Does not deal with hoarding -- although it's mentioned and some not-so-obvious ways are introduced to think about your stuff...."does it need me?" vs "do I need it?" :) Book's focus is how to organize, but rather than a "one size ... Helpful books & articles Sun, 13 Apr 2008 22:03:43 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/conquering-chronic-disorganization-2nd-ed-by-judity-kolberg-t175.htm#226 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/conquering-chronic-disorganization-2nd-ed-by-judity-kolberg-t175.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/workshops-shows-upcoming-events-to-note-f71/abc-primetime-4-9-08-the-last-lecture-w-randy-pausch-t174.htm gopats The Last Lecture: A Love Story for Your Life



Diane Sawyer Talks to Randy Pausch and His Family Seven Months After Inspiring Lecture





http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=4614281&page=1]]> Workshops, Shows, Upcoming Events To Note Wed, 09 Apr 2008 16:07:40 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/workshops-shows-upcoming-events-to-note-f71/abc-primetime-4-9-08-the-last-lecture-w-randy-pausch-t174.htm#225 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/workshops-shows-upcoming-events-to-note-f71/abc-primetime-4-9-08-the-last-lecture-w-randy-pausch-t174.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/we-order-our-world-t173.htm gopats We order our world from the inside out.

As I change inside, the house changes.

-- Sandra Felton, Messie's Anon.]]> Your favorite quotes for inspiration Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:45:38 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/we-order-our-world-t173.htm#224 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/we-order-our-world-t173.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/the-last-lecture-randy-pausch-t172.htm gopats Originally posted under inspriational quotes, but perhaps should be posted here? Carnegie Mellon Professor Randy Pausch, who is dying from pancreatic cancer, gave his last lecture at the university Sept. 18, 2007, before a packed McConomy Auditorium. In his moving talk, "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams," Pausch talked about his lessons learned and gave advice to students on how to achieve their own career and personal goals. For more, visit www.cmu.edu/randyslecture. "Journeys" are ... Helpful books & articles Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:24:36 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/the-last-lecture-randy-pausch-t172.htm#223 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/the-last-lecture-randy-pausch-t172.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/on-line-video-my-stroke-of-insight-jill-bolte-taylor-t171.htm gopats I originally posted this in the Inspirational Quotes Section, but it should probably be here. Why you should listen to her: One morning, a blood vessel in Jill Bolte Taylor's brain exploded. As a brain scientist, she realized she had a ringside seat to her own stroke. She watched as her brain functions shut down one by one: motion, speech, memory, self-awareness ... Amazed to find herself alive, Taylor spent eight years recovering her ability to think, walk and talk. She has become ... Helpful books & articles Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:21:18 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/on-line-video-my-stroke-of-insight-jill-bolte-taylor-t171.htm#222 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/on-line-video-my-stroke-of-insight-jill-bolte-taylor-t171.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/messie-no-more-sandra-felton-t170.htm gopats Table of Contents: Part 1: Understanding the Messie Mind-Set 1. Accepting Yourself 2. The Saver Messie 3. The Clutterer Messie 4. The Time Waster Messie 5. ADD Adds to the Problem 6. Compulsive or Just Messie? 7. Parenting the CHild Within 8. Fatigue 9. Depression 10. Cleanliness and Godliness 11. To Change or Not to Change Par 2: Overcoming the Messie Mind-Set 12. Living the Orderly Life 13. More Discipline Doesn't Work 14. Working Harder Doesn't Work 15. Arresting Mess ... Helpful books & articles Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:14:25 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/messie-no-more-sandra-felton-t170.htm#221 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/messie-no-more-sandra-felton-t170.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/my-stroke-of-insight-jill-bolte-taylor-t169.htm gopats Why you should listen to her: One morning, a blood vessel in Jill Bolte Taylor's brain exploded. As a brain scientist, she realized she had a ringside seat to her own stroke. She watched as her brain functions shut down one by one: motion, speech, memory, self-awareness ... Amazed to find herself alive, Taylor spent eight years recovering her ability to think, walk and talk. She has become a spokesperson for stroke recovery and for the possibility of coming back from brain injury stronger ... Your favorite quotes for inspiration Wed, 09 Apr 2008 02:02:10 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/my-stroke-of-insight-jill-bolte-taylor-t169.htm#220 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/my-stroke-of-insight-jill-bolte-taylor-t169.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/the-last-lecture-randy-pausch-t168.htm gopats Carnegie Mellon Professor Randy Pausch, who is dying from pancreatic cancer, gave his last lecture at the university Sept. 18, 2007, before a packed McConomy Auditorium. In his moving talk, "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams," Pausch talked about his lessons learned and gave advice to students on how to achieve their own career and personal goals. For more, visit www.cmu.edu/randyslecture. "Journeys" are special University Lectures in which Carnegie Mellon faculty members share their ... Your favorite quotes for inspiration Wed, 09 Apr 2008 01:58:21 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/the-last-lecture-randy-pausch-t168.htm#219 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/your-favorite-quotes-for-inspiration-f10/the-last-lecture-randy-pausch-t168.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/change-video-is-this-helpful-t135.htm Admin http://s77.photobucket.com/albums/j58/COHDonna/?action=view&current=Change3_0001.flv]]> Introductions & General Discussion Thu, 21 Feb 2008 05:28:10 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/change-video-is-this-helpful-t135.htm#153 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/change-video-is-this-helpful-t135.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/the-5-staqes-of-change-which-stage-are-you-t29.htm Admin 5 Stages of Change for Compulsive Hoarding People can and do change, either by themselves or with the help of therapy, either self directed or with the assistance of a therapist. James Prochaska, Ph.D, and his colleagues have spent years studying and researching how people change and they have determined that people change in stages. They define these stages as 1) PRECONTEMPLATION 2) CONTEMPLATION 3) PREPARATION 4) ACTION 5) MAINTENANCE The ... Introductions & General Discussion Sun, 20 Jan 2008 04:51:46 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/the-5-staqes-of-change-which-stage-are-you-t29.htm#32 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/the-5-staqes-of-change-which-stage-are-you-t29.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-not-to-say-to-a-recovering-hoarder-clutterer-t166.htm gopats Change is hard. When you change, sometimes other people don't like it. They are used to you being a certain way. Maybe they are used to you being their dumping ground for some of their own compulsive purchases? Hmmm....Maybe they know you can't say 'no'. Don't misunderstand, I am not blaming others. But, sometimes others aren't helpful, especially when you are trying to affect a positive change in your own life and for some reason that invalidates or is an insult to them about their own lifestyle. ... Introductions & General Discussion Tue, 08 Apr 2008 12:35:35 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-not-to-say-to-a-recovering-hoarder-clutterer-t166.htm#214 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-not-to-say-to-a-recovering-hoarder-clutterer-t166.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-not-to-do-to-a-recovering-clutterer-hoarder-t167.htm gopats Here are some things that I wish people would not do to me/my family: Give me two of everything. Buy the "whole set" and give it to me (or my kids) at once, when it is something that could be gotten over time and worked towards. Overload me with candy and other "treats" when you know I have a weight issue. Overload my kids with more candy than they can eat before the next holiday. Give me something with strings attached. Buy things for my kids as a reward for every little thing ... Introductions & General Discussion Tue, 08 Apr 2008 12:59:02 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-not-to-do-to-a-recovering-clutterer-hoarder-t167.htm#215 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-not-to-do-to-a-recovering-clutterer-hoarder-t167.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/fighting-the-urge-to-acquire-experiences-suggestions-f43/taking-free-stuff-t165.htm gopats I used to take all kinds of cast offs. It's ok to call them that....I no longer feel sorry for them or feel like I owe them a home. It's ok to tell people 'no'. "No, I am sorry, I cannot take your -------, I simply don't have room". "No, thank you so much, but I do not need 'such and such'". It's ok to not take freebies off of tables at fairs. If you don't take them, someone else will (and that's ok!). They will simply save them for next time. It's ... Fighting The Urge To Acquire: Experiences & Suggestions Tue, 08 Apr 2008 12:17:35 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/fighting-the-urge-to-acquire-experiences-suggestions-f43/taking-free-stuff-t165.htm#213 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/fighting-the-urge-to-acquire-experiences-suggestions-f43/taking-free-stuff-t165.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-i-have-tossed-t144.htm gopats I thought maybe starting this thread might help others, so here it goes. I am going to start listing some things that I have gotten rid of recently.....that I have either tossed out without remorse or donated to charity or others. Anyone else? Throw your own "donations" on the pile of messages and we'll see how big the pile gets! Introductions & General Discussion Thu, 27 Mar 2008 12:41:15 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-i-have-tossed-t144.htm#185 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/things-i-have-tossed-t144.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/caveat-on-posts-below-t164.htm gopats OK, so all of these are not blogs, some have a blog .... some of these are informational websites, so I should have posted them under that Heading, which I did not see at first. I will work with the site admin to either move them or repost them in the appropriate section later. Great blogs to visit for help & inspiration Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:32:43 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/caveat-on-posts-below-t164.htm#210 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/caveat-on-posts-below-t164.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/squalor-survivors-t163.htm gopats http://squalorsurvivors.org/ The site name speaks for itself and is very inspirational. Read kimmie's story. Even if you don't live in this type of environment...still very inspirational. Lots of personal stories and they do have message boards. A lot of information on: Squalor: Measuring, Hoarding, Contributing Factors, Consequences Overcoming: Where Do I Start -- Start with Yourself; There is a Reason, it's Not Laziness; Your Problem is Unique, So is the Solution, Steps ... Great blogs to visit for help & inspiration Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:28:45 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/squalor-survivors-t163.htm#209 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/squalor-survivors-t163.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/i-m-an-organizing-junkie-t162.htm gopats http://orgjunkie.com/ Here is a site that is kind of cool. It is put up by a woman who is a self described "organizing junkie" who is addicted to containerizing everything. She loves to organize. It is a large site, and may be a bit overwhelming at first -- it was for me anyway!! In fact, when I first read it I was really resentful of this woman. Who is she and why is she so organized!? I mean, where does she "get off" being so good at this...when I am struggling. :) BUT, ... Great blogs to visit for help & inspiration Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:22:09 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/i-m-an-organizing-junkie-t162.htm#208 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/i-m-an-organizing-junkie-t162.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/mike-nelson-s-clutterless-group-t161.htm gopats
Here is his website.

http://www.clutterless.org/]]> Great blogs to visit for help & inspiration Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:10:15 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/mike-nelson-s-clutterless-group-t161.htm#207 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/mike-nelson-s-clutterless-group-t161.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/sandra-felton-s-messies-support-groups-t160.htm gopats http://www.messies.com/support_groups/ List of support groups affliliated with Sandra Felton and the Messie's Anonymous. Support Groups Messietalk Postings about the general problems and solutions Messies face in many areas of life. One of the most active groups. Australian Messies in Recovery As Australian Messies work together they can speed their own improvement. Teleconference Announcement Join this group to be notified about upcoming telephone conference dates. Twelve Step ... Great blogs to visit for help & inspiration Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:06:15 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/sandra-felton-s-messies-support-groups-t160.htm#206 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/sandra-felton-s-messies-support-groups-t160.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/zen-habits-t159.htm gopats http://zenhabits.net/ A site with lots of info on simplicity and simplifying your life. Very large site, have not looked everywhere, but stumbled on this article somehow. http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/15-great-decluttering-tips/ This is a 'tough love' comment, but it really made an impact on me. Number 13 on the list. Internalize that your value is not in your “stuff”. It is just “stuff”. And realize that your value grows when you share your “stuff”. Hoarding is a selfish act. Oh, ... Great blogs to visit for help & inspiration Wed, 02 Apr 2008 02:02:32 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/zen-habits-t159.htm#205 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/zen-habits-t159.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/my-messie-house-t158.htm gopats http://mymessyhouse.org/

Some great articles, seems to be updated sporadically, but some good stuff there. Has been updated by site admin recently and it seems like there will be more content added soon. There is a good article on hoarding specifically. Non judgemental and inspiring.]]> Great blogs to visit for help & inspiration Wed, 02 Apr 2008 01:51:37 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/my-messie-house-t158.htm#204 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/great-blogs-to-visit-for-help-inspiration-f8/my-messie-house-t158.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/the-organizer-lady-friends-present-t157.htm gopats http://messies.com/products/audio_video/the_organizer_lady_friends_present/ Messies Anonymous Home of the Organizer Lady The Organizer Lady & Friends Present Price: $9.95 Item #: 170 Description: The Organizer Lady and Friends Present a continuing series of CD recordings made during recent teleconferences. These teleconferences are presented by Sandra Felton and her special guest speakers on a variety of topics regarding important issues that we face in our struggle to ... Helpful books & articles Tue, 01 Apr 2008 12:24:22 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/the-organizer-lady-friends-present-t157.htm#203 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-books-articles-f7/the-organizer-lady-friends-present-t157.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/any-comments-on-oprah-show-t140.htm Admin http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200711/tows_past_20071115.jhtml?promocode=HP51
3/25 & 3/26

Any thoughts or comments?
Do you think the fresh start will help Sharon?]]> Introductions & General Discussion Sun, 23 Mar 2008 15:36:59 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/any-comments-on-oprah-show-t140.htm#175 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/introductions-general-discussion-f1/any-comments-on-oprah-show-t140.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/30-seconds-or-less-t156.htm gopats
I have found this very helpful!

Just thought I would pass that along. ]]> General Discussion about household ops & maintenance Mon, 31 Mar 2008 23:59:07 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/30-seconds-or-less-t156.htm#201 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/30-seconds-or-less-t156.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/finishing-the-job-what-s-so-hard-about-that-t155.htm gopats What is so hard about that anyway? I seem to have trouble doing the final step in the process and it gets me all the time. For example: -- putting dishes away from dishwasher and not leaving them on the counter -- submitting final paperwork for insurance --folding and putting away laundry after it has been washed There are other examples, but -- why is that so hard. I think it has to do with being a perfectionist and not wanting to make a mistake and ... General Discussion about household ops & maintenance Mon, 31 Mar 2008 23:57:08 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/finishing-the-job-what-s-so-hard-about-that-t155.htm#200 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/finishing-the-job-what-s-so-hard-about-that-t155.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-mealtime-cleanup-t154.htm gopats I realize that some of us might not have alot of room in their eating area. Mine was always pretty serviceable, but there was a ton of stuff on the counters. Piles and stuff sliding all over. But, there wasn't stuff all over the floor, well, just lining the walls -- ok! Still, we managed to be able to clean the table off for meals. Now, the table is pretty clear most of the time -- yay!!! And, the food prep counters are pretty clutter free. There is this one counter, though, but ... General Discussion about household ops & maintenance Mon, 31 Mar 2008 23:53:19 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-mealtime-cleanup-t154.htm#199 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-mealtime-cleanup-t154.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-catalogs-t153.htm gopats Part of this whole thing, I think, is chronic disorganization, which isn't really discussed much insofar as the hoarding seems to be the main issue. I am pretty good at setting things up, but not so much at maintaining them and that is where the disorginization starts. I think. So, part of this whole thing has been to try to establish routines and stick to them. One of my routines is to throw out old catalogs the minute the new one comes in. OK, so maybe I shouldn't ... General Discussion about household ops & maintenance Mon, 31 Mar 2008 22:31:48 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-catalogs-t153.htm#198 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-catalogs-t153.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-laundry-and-i-hate-laundry-t152.htm gopats Well, I should say I hate putting it away. I don't really mind washing it or folding it even. But I hate, hate, hate putting it away. I don't really know why. It might have something to do w/my childhood in that I could never fold things neatly enough for mom. I was routinely 'busted' for keeping a messy drawer. So, maybe this whole thing is genetic. Still...I now let my kids put away their own clothes the way they want...with a few regular adjustments every ... General Discussion about household ops & maintenance Mon, 31 Mar 2008 20:02:05 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-laundry-and-i-hate-laundry-t152.htm#196 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-laundry-and-i-hate-laundry-t152.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-plastic-bags-t151.htm gopats I did not have a problem saving these like some folks do, but I still managed to stockpile quite a few of them at one point...saving 'special' ones from stores or whatever. Oh, and having enough "just in case". Or, using the large bags as trash bags even though they don't really fit. I no longer save the special ones. They aren't special....it is you that is special or the person that brought you the gift in the bag that is special...not the bag itself. When I realized ... General Discussion about household ops & maintenance Mon, 31 Mar 2008 19:58:13 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-plastic-bags-t151.htm#195 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-plastic-bags-t151.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/maintenance-refrigerator-t150.htm gopats Every week, no matter what, on Sunday night I clean out the refrigerator. No matter if we haven't eaten it. If it is not good, I throw it out. If we will not eat, it I throw it out. If there is any chance that it is not good, I throw it out. I actually waste less food than I did before because my fridge is usually clean and I can see what I have. I use see through containers so I can see what I have in there and how much is left. I bought all the ... 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I keep them in a decorative container and nowhere else.

On trash night, they go out for recycle.]]> General Discussion about household ops & maintenance Mon, 31 Mar 2008 19:39:12 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-newspapers-t149.htm#193 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-household-ops-maintenance-f80/routines-newspapers-t149.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/fighting-the-urge-to-acquire-experiences-suggestions-f43/information-hoarding-t148.htm gopats OK, so I used to save newspapers -- alot of them. Not so many that they were piled up in huge stacks. So, maybe it wasn't so many after all. I mostly hoarded clothing, toys, and all other household things...books are hard, too. Still, I would save several weeks or a couple of months or more worth of papers at a time. There was always some article that I wanted to read or something I thought I was missing, I guess. But, as I slowly turned this thing around -- I mean turned ... Fighting The Urge To Acquire: Experiences & Suggestions Mon, 31 Mar 2008 19:33:28 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/fighting-the-urge-to-acquire-experiences-suggestions-f43/information-hoarding-t148.htm#191 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/fighting-the-urge-to-acquire-experiences-suggestions-f43/information-hoarding-t148.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/perfectionism-experiences-advice-f41/donating-to-the-imperfect-charity-t147.htm gopats Well, it used to be that I could only donate to one charity, one that is a very good one and gets high marks for actual dollars/goods donated used for the actual charity work (as opposed to going towards marketing, excutive's corporate jets and so forth). Anyway, to donate to this charity is sometimes hard, as it used to take them 3 weeks to come out for a pickup (for large items). The stores that I can donate to are at least 30 minutes from my house. Not all stores take donations. So, ... Perfectionism: Experiences & Advice Mon, 31 Mar 2008 17:06:03 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/perfectionism-experiences-advice-f41/donating-to-the-imperfect-charity-t147.htm#190 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/perfectionism-experiences-advice-f41/donating-to-the-imperfect-charity-t147.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-off-topic-interests-f81/inspirational-children-s-poem-children-learn-what-they-live-t146.htm gopats Children Learn What They Live If a child lives with criticism, they learn to condemn. If a child lives with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive, If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves, If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty, But do not despair ... If a child lives with tolerance, they learn to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement, ... General Discussion about off topic interests Sun, 30 Mar 2008 21:56:18 GMT http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-off-topic-interests-f81/inspirational-children-s-poem-children-learn-what-they-live-t146.htm#189 http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/general-discussion-about-off-topic-interests-f81/inspirational-children-s-poem-children-learn-what-they-live-t146.htm http://helpinghoarders.forumotion.com/helpful-suggestions-on-decision-making-difficulties-f40/kid-s-clothing-and-toys-t145.htm gopats What is all this saving? Really, deferred decisions. Sometimes I find it helpful when trying to decide whether or not to get rid of something to make the decision quickly. And, that took lots and lots of practice! I was a terribly slow decision maker about almost everything. I am better now, but still struggle sometimes. One of the hardest things for me to get rid of is kids' clothing and toys. I am very attached to them. My kids wore them and played with them. 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